Testimony Before the Children and Family Law Committee

Testimony Before the Children and Family Law Committee
of the New Hampshire House of Representatives on Senate Bill 335
by Adam Pertman
Executive Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute
April 6, 2004


Good morning and thank you for providing me the opportunity to testify on SB 335, permitting adult adoptees access to their original birth certificates. The issue you are examining today is far more important than most people perceive it to be, both in practical terms for the tens of millions of Americans that it stigmatizes – and I mean both birth parents and adopted people – and symbolically, because we keep secrets about things we are ashamed of or embarrassed about. So, when we seal birth certificates, we send the clear signal that adoption is somehow a lesser way of forming a family, because it has something to hide from the very start. Thank God, we are emerging from the period of our history in which people actually believed that was true, a period in which adoption was a shadowy secret, a period in which we denigrated nearly everyone touched by this wondrous institution, a period in which we even turned the words “you’re adopted” into an insult. My children are not an insult, and neither are anyone else’s, regardless of how they came into a family or why they left one. But some remnants of those dark days remain, and sealed birth certificates are one of those remnants.

It is also difficult to learn much about secrets. As a result, many myths, misconceptions and stereotypes have come to be widely accepted – even by some professionals in the adoption field. The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, which I am proud to head, has no formal ties with any interest group or segment of the adoption community. It is an independent research and education organization that was created for just one reason: to provide accurate, research-based information for practitioners, policymakers, journalists and others so that we, as a society, can shape better laws, policies and practices to improve the lives of everyone touched by adoption, especially children.

I will try not to take up too much of your time. So I’ve boiled down the rest of my testimony into bullet points about research that applies specifically to the issue of sealed birth certificates. I will steer away from any disputed findings, and will stick to only those confirmed by hard data, widely accepted studies, or pervasive experience. I will submit footnotes and supporting materials for the record:

* First, as you have already heard, it is a historical fact that adoption-related records – in New Hampshire and across the United States – were closed to protect adopted children from the stigma and shame of illegitimacy, and biological mothers from the stigma and shame of unwed motherhood. The clear legislative and professional intent was to prevent access to those records by the public, not by the parties to an adoption themselves. Historically, the notion that birth certificates were sealed to ensure the anonymity of birth mothers is simply untrue, irrespective of whether providing anonymity is a good idea or not.

* Second, it needs to be stressed that adopted people are not stalkers or ingrates or children in search of new mommies and daddies. They are simply adults who want the same information the rest of us receive as a birthright. In his book “Roots,” Alex Haley wrote: “In all of us there is a hunger, marrow deep, to know our heritage, to know who we are and where we have come from. Without this enriching knowledge, there is a hollow yearning; no matter what our attainments in life, there is the most disquieting loneliness.” Research, experience and instinct all affirm Haley’s eloquent observation. And adopted people are not exempt from the laws of nature. They love their parents – that is, their adoptive parents – just as much and are just as loyal as if they had been born to them. But a growing majority wants to know who they are and where they came from.

Statistically, most do not form relationships with their biological kin or even make contact; for them, just having the most basic information about themselves is enough; it makes them feel they are treated equally, and it makes them feel whole. The fact is that access to their documents has become an issue that is separate from the question of “search” anyway. That is because, as a result of the Internet and other modern-day resources, many if not most adoptees who want to find their birth relatives can do so with or without their original birth certificates. One other detail relating to adoptees: They are wrong when they complain that they are the only Americans whose records are automatically sealed, and cannot be opened without court approval. In fact, the same process applies to people placed in the Federal Witness Protection Program.

* Third, the notion that a lack of anonymity leads women to have abortions rather than place their children for adoption is pure fiction. It may sound correct intuitively but, in fact, just the opposite is true in practice; the research indicates that women are at least as likely to carry their babies to term and place them into adoptive homes if they believe they will have ongoing knowledge about what happened to those children. The evidence is in the growing number of states where adoption records have most recently been unsealed, and it extends much further and for much longer: In Kansas and Alaska, the only two states in which records have never been closed, there have consistently been fewer abortions and more adoptions than in states that border them or in the country as a whole.

* Fourth, on the critically important question of the birth mothers’ desires, the research is unambiguous: Every study I have seen or am aware of relating to whether they want anonymity clearly shows that the vast majority do not – and that applies to those who were verbally assured of anonymity as well as those who were verbally assured they would one day have contact with the children they bore; yes, many women were promised exactly the opposite of anonymity, but those promises are seldom publicly discussed. Back to the numbers: Depending on the study, between 80 and 95 percent of birth mothers do indeed want some level of information or contact with the lives they created. That doesn’t mean they want to give up their privacy, but there’s a huge difference between privacy and secrecy. And it doesn’t mean they necessarily want the information or contact right away – some only want it years later, when they’ve had enough time to deal with the personal and emotional consequences of their action or, increasingly often, when they discover they have genetic or medical information they want to share.

Even among those who genuinely thought they wanted anonymity at the time of placement, the majority eventually changes their minds. Life is not a snapshot, after all, and few of us would want to live forever with the decisions we made at the age of 17, or even 25. Yet the core argument against unsealing birth records is predicated on the mistaken belief that birth mothers are of one mind – and it will never change. This is not only a fundamental misunderstanding of research and experience, on a human level it assumes a woman can carry a child within her and then part with that child and just “move on,” as though she has given away an old record player. That view – essentially relegating women to the role of baby-making machines – pervaded adoption for generations. Thank God, it is changing radically and adoption practices are being reshaped in comprehensive, historic ways as a result. The bottom line is that birth certificates remain sealed in most of our country today because of lingering myths and mistaken stereotypes.

Finally, keeping birth certificates sealed contradicts the stated desires of almost everyone directly affected, and it flies in the face of majority opinion throughout the United States. That applies to birth mothers, who seldom choose not to be contacted in states where they can state a preference; it applies to adopted people who – once they are adults – favor access to their records by margins of about 4 to 1; it applies to a large and growing number of adoptive parents, a clear majority of whom have already told their children about their origins anyway; and, according to a recent study, it applies to the American public as a whole. The study, which had a 3 percent margin of error, asked this question: “Should adopted children be granted full access to their adoption records when they become adults?” Eighty-four percent responded, “yes.”

I respectfully ask the members of this committee to put aside the aberrational anecdotes, emotional appeals, and corrosive myths on which too much public policy relating to adoption has been based for far too long. Instead, please examine the research. I believe that, after you do, you will come to the same conclusion as that 84 percent. Again, thank you very much.







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